A child asked his father "what does political corruption means?"
The father answered "see.. It's not easy to understand it at your age but I can give you an analogy.
I spend money on this family so let's call me capitalism.
Your mother governs the affairs of the house and takes care of you and your little sister, so we will call her the government.
You are under your mom's responsibility so we call you the people,
while your little sister is our hope so we consider her to be the future.
Finally, the maid that is working in the house between cleaning and cooking we call her the working class.
Now, go think about it, and you shall understand."
Later at night the boy could not sleep from his little sister's crying as she needed her diaper changed. So he got up and went to tell his mom, but found submerged in a deep sleep and did not wake up when he tried to wake her up. Then he noticed his dad was not in bed next to her!
He went looking for his dad around the house when he heard the whispers and laughter in the maid's room, he peeked through the key hole and saw his dad engaged with the maid.
The next day the boy told his father that he now understands the meaning of political corruption.
He explained "While capitalism is playing with the working class and the government is asleep, the people become worried and neglected as the future swims in deep shit."
What did history’s greatest minds believe in? It is a question that many of us have asked. It is a question that has undoubtedly been tossed around when somebody comes out as an atheist. While the beliefs of most celebrities are irrelevant, the religious and philosophical ideas of those famed for their intellect is a more interesting topic.
Albert Einstein’s religious beliefs are chief among these inquiries. Many people know he was raised as a Jew, and some people remain convinced of his dedication to the God of Abraham. Atheists like to include him as being one their own, being able to say that one of the greatest geniuses in world history was on your side is a nice endorsement, so it is understandable why all sides want to claim him.
But what did he believe?
In January of 1936, Einstein received a letter from a young girl in the sixth grade. She had asked him, with the encouragement of her teacher, whether you could believe in science and religion.
My dear Dr. Einstein, We have brought up the question: 'Do scientists pray?' in our Sunday school class. It began by asking whether we could believe in both science and religion. We are writing to scientists and other important men, to try and have our own question answered. We will feel greatly honored if you will answer our question: Do scientists pray, and what do they pray for? We are in the sixth grade, Miss Ellis's class. Respectfully yours, Phyllis
He was quick to reply few days later:
Dear Phyllis, I will attempt to reply to your question as simply as I can. Here is my answer: Scientists believe that every occurrence, including the affairs of human beings, is due to the laws of nature. Therefore a scientist cannot be inclined to believe that the course of events can be influenced by prayer, that is, by a supernaturally manifested wish. However, we must concede that our actual knowledge of these forces is imperfect, so that in the end the belief in the existence of a final, ultimate spirit rests on a kind of faith. Such belief remains widespread even with the current achievements in science. But also, everyone who is seriously involved in the pursuit of science becomes convinced that some spirit is manifest in the laws of the universe, one that is vastly superior to that of man. In this way the pursuit of science leads to a religious feeling of a special sort, which is surely quite different from the religiosity of someone more naive. With cordial greetings, your A. Einstein
In his reply to Phyllis, Einstein hints at his pantheism; the idea that “God is everything”.
Several times he expressed this view explicitly, telling the Rabbi Herbert S. Goldstein:
“I believe in Spinoza's God, who reveals himself in the harmony of all that exists, not in a God who concerns himself with the fate and the doings of mankind.”
He went further in telling an interviewer that he was, “fascinated by Spinoza's Pantheism.”
This pantheism would form the basis of his worldview, and even influence his ideas in physics.
Pantheism can be defined as a few similar ideas. In the simplest form, it is the belief that everything is identical to God. Holders of this view will often say that God is the universe, nature, the cosmos, or that everything is “one” with God. However, some holders of the view argue that it can also mean that the essence of the divine is in everything without everything “being part” of God.
The Pantheism of Spinoza, which Einstein was most interested in, holds that the universe is identical to God. This God is impersonal and uninterested in human affairs. Everything is made of the same fundamental substance, which is derivative of God. The laws of physics are absolute and causality leads to determinism in this cosmos. Everything which happens was the result of necessity and it was the will of God. For the individual, happiness follows from understanding the cosmos and our place in it rather than trying to pray for divine intervention.
Einstein’s views of God, life, and the universe are more complicated than people who want him on their side make them out to be. His devotion to science and reason drove him to the rationalistic worldview of Spinoza, and to a detachment from organized religion. His ideas are worth studying, as are the worldviews of most geniuses. Especially for the next time a meme goes around trying to claim him as a member of one religion over another.
Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983.
From the world over, he received letters from his fan, one of them conveyed: "Why does God have to select you for such a bad disease?".
To this Arthur Ashe replied:
The world over 50,000,000 children start playing tennis, 5,000,000 learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam, 50 reach the Wimbledon, 4 to semi finals, 2 to finals. When I was the one holding the cup, I never asked god "Why me?".
And today in pain, I should not be asking GOD "why me?"
Performance artist Marina Abramovic was doing a live art show that involved her sitting in silence for 1 minute opposite complete strangers. Lots of people took part, but one man in particular gave her goosebumps.
I’ll let you watch the video and then I will explain a little more further below as I think you will appreciate the back story more once you see what happens in the video.
The story behind the scene:
In 2010, Serbian artist Marina Abramović had the honor of being the subject of a popular retrospective at New York’s Museum of Modern Art. Throughout the show, Abramović performed a 736 hours and 30 minutes grueling piece entitled “The Artist Is Present,” sitting in the museum’s atrium and inviting the swelling crowds of viewers to sit directly opposite her, in silent dialogue. Abramović was no stranger to challenging performances. By the time that MoMA staged the retrospective, the then 63 year old artist had engaged in countless taxing exhibitions, earning her self-given title, “the grandmother of performance art.”
In her first performance at 27, Abramović explored the idea of ritual by playing a knife game on camera, stabbing the surface between her splayed fingers with a knife and occasionally hurting herself; she would then watch a video recording of the violence, and attempt to replicate it. Subsequent performances included her explorations of consciousness through the ingestion of pills for catatonia and depression; another comprised a 1974 incarnation of her MoMA performance, where Abramović sat passively before a table littered with objects for six hours, inviting the audience to put them to use on her person (of this piece, Abramović says, “What I learned was that… if you leave it up to the audience, they can kill you… I felt really violated: they cut up my clothes, stuck rose thorns in my stomach…”)
In 1976, Abramović met Ulay (Frank Uwe Laysiepen), a West German artist who would become her lover and collaborator for the next twelve years. The duo fell into an impersonal abyss, losing their self hoods and attempting to become a single entity through arresting performances such as Breathing In/Breathing Out, where they locked mouths and breathed each other’s exhaled breath, eventually filling their lungs with carbon monoxide and falling unconscious. By 1988, their romance had run its course; in typically atypical fashion, the pair decided to part by walking from opposing ends of the Great Wall of China until they met in the middle, and then said goodbye.
On the opening night of Abramović’s retrospective in 2010, the erstwhile lovers were reunited. The video above shows Abramović, sitting and steeling herself for her next silent interlocutor. Ulay approaches, and Abramović, a veteran of such difficult performances, looks up to what may have been the single most unexpected sight of the night, jolting her dignified composure. Their reunion is a deeply tender scene.
Marina and Ulay
Ever since I saw the video on YouTube, I wanted to know more about Marina's personal life and most important about her relation with Ulay. I couldn't understand how a couple could do what they've done. It's not easy to decide to break up without no reason.
There is a a biography by James Wescott "When Marina Abramovic Dies", that was published in March 2010 during her residence at MoMa.
Wescott worked with Marina on the book, and it's undoubtedly slanted a bit in her favor.
Unfortunately I didn't read the entire book, but it is highly recommend by several websites as "a balanced look at her work and her private life".
From what I've read on the web, Marina and Ulay's relationship is the center of the book and of Marina's life - they were together for nearly twelve years, living and working together in intense intimacy. They had originally planned to walk towards each other from the opposite ends of the Great Wall of China, meet in the middle, and get married. When they actually did itten years later they walked to each other over the course of ninety days, embraced, and went their separate ways.
Ulay married his translator from the trip shortly thereafter, and Marina returned to New York. I can't imagine the heartbreak she must have felt (not to mention the exhaustion) on that plane ride home. As she wept when they met on the Wall Ulay told her, "Don't cry; we have accomplished so much." And Marina would go on to accomplish much more without Ulay.
At 71 years old she is still glowing.
How I Became the Bomb's 'Ulay, Oh'
The clip featured the story of Marina and Ulay, by the band Adonis EP..
Several sites (like this one, this one and this one ) got hold of the video, posting it under headlines like "The Power of Love" and "She Sat With Many Strangers That Day, But When This Man Shows Up I Got Goosebumps", "Love Is Blind. Until You See Your Ex Again!"
At the time of this post's publication, "Ulay, Oh" has received more than 34 million views and still counting
“I was fortunate enough to wander into the MoMA just in time for "The Artist Is Present". Equal parts unsettling, absurd, and profound; I couldn't shake the experience. Later, I stumbled onto the video wherein Ulay and Marina reunite and was overwhelmed with only one sentiment: this is a song.”
- HIBTB frontman Jon Burr
The Lyrics There she was like a picture There she was, she was just the same
There she was, he just had to know that she had forgot his name Ulay, ulay, oh Thinking back to the last time On the wall as they turned away Walking back, was it just a dream or did he hear her say? Ulay, ulay, oh Trying his best to forget her Trying his best to just keep his stride Kept his word, but he knows he heard Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh There she was like a picture There she was, she was just the same There she was, he just had to know she had not forgot his name Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh There he was like his picture There he was, he was just the same There he was, he could never know she could never give his name Ulay, ulay, oh Thinking back to the last time On the wall as he turned away Turning back, did he even know? Did he ever hear her say Ulay, ulay, oh Trying her best to forget him Trying her best just to keep her stride Ulay, ulay, oh Ulay, ulay, oh There they were like the picture There they were, they were just the same There they were, but he walked away and her eyes could only say Ulay, ulay, oh
ثمة نكتة تعود للعهود الشيوعية، تقول إن شاباً ألمانياً ذهب للعمل والدراسة في صربيا، وكان الشاب يعلم مسبقاً أن البريد السوفياتي مراقب بصرامة، لذا إتفق مع رفاقه أن يكتب لهم بالحبر الأزرق إن كان كل شيء طبيعياً، أما إذا كتب بالأحمر فمضمون رسالته زائف ومشفر، بعد وصوله بأشهر بعث برسالة إلى الأصدقاء في ألمانيا، فتجمهروا حولها وفتحوها بلهفة شديدة، فخاب أملهم لما وجدوها بالأزرق، ومع ذلك شرعوا بقراءتها… “كل شيء جميل هنا، المخازن ممتلئة بالأطعمة الجيدة، مسارح العرض تعرض أفلاماً غربية جديدة، الشقق واسعة وفخمة وفيها تدفئة مقبولة، الشيء الوحيد الذي ليس بإمكانك شراؤه في هذه المدينة هو قلم الحبر الأحمر”…
أخذتني نوبة هستيرية من الضحك، وقد سرحت فيما كنت سأكتب لو كنت مكانه، لساعات طوال الليل كنت أقهقه كلما خرجت بسيناريو أحمر مكتوب بالحبر الأزرق، حتى عقدت العزم على مراسلة أصدقائي في المهجر…
إلى أصدقائي في كندا وأميركا والبرازيل والخليج وسائر بلاد الإنتشار اللبناني.
تحية طيبة.. وبعد
أكتب إليكم من لبنان، بلد المحبة والتسامح والديمقراطية والحرية المطلقة، أنا في أحسن حال هنا، أحس بالأمان الشديد، لا خوف عليّ أبداً، ولا ينقصني شيء مطلقاً، كل شيء متوفر هنا، الماء، والوقود، والكهرباء، والرعاية الصحية وكلها بأبخس الأثمان.
البلد نظيف للغاية، لا نفايات ولا مطامر ولا تلوث! حتى أن نسيم العاصمة في نفق سليم سلام "يرد الروح".
الوظائف هنا كثيرة، لكن مقياس الحصول عليها هو الكفاءة لا شيء آخر، الرواتب في لبنان مرتفعة للغاية، حتى لو أسرفت إلى حد الجنون، سيبقى راتبك في جيبك وكأنه ينجب ويتكاثر، الشعب هنا مضياف كريم، يعامل الأجانب بعدل وإنصاف ويمنحهم حقوقهم الإنسانية كلها، لا ينتقص منها شيئاً، يمكنك أن تكتب وتعبر كيفما تشاء، لن يتعرض لك أحد، الإختلاف في الآراء يُعالج بالطرق الودية والحبية، خاصة أن الابتسامة تعلو كل الوجوه في كل الأوقات.
تصوروا أن السوريين ورغم رغد العيش والأمان في سوريا، يأتون طوعاً إلى لبنان للتنعم بحسن الضيافة ، يعيشون بين اللبنانيين في قصور وشقق فخمة وواسعة تطل على البحر وعلى الحدائق العامة الغنّاء.
الحكام هنا عادلون، والشعب يعبدهم (حرفياً)، ومن فرط حبه لهم طالبهم بإلغاء الانتخابات ليمددوا لأنفسهم، لأنه من المستحيل أن يأتي بغيرهم، الديمقراطية بدعة قديمة، هنا اخترعوا التمديد كإحدى أحدث نظريات الولاء الجماهيري.
أحدثكم عن أهل السياسة، وعن أكفهم البيضاء النظيفة المنزهة عن الخطأ، وكأنهم قديسون وملائكة، يااااه لو تعلمون مدى حرصهم على هيبة الدولة واستقلالها وقرارها السيد الحر، وعلى مؤسساتها وحداثتها، حتى أنهم أراحوا العسكر من عناء السهر، فقام كل زعيم بإنشاء تنظيم يسهر على أمن الناس وسلامتهم، عناصره يمكن تمييزهم بسهولة، فهم يلبسون الأبيض، ويمسكون بورود حمراء نضرة في أيديهم.
من النعيم اللبناني، أعاتبكم يا أصدقائي على اختياركم الهجرة، لقد أضعتم الكثير، تركتم ورائكم جنة الله على الأرض.
The same as “proficiency” validates a high level of English language knowledge, to find that a person has been a Scout in a personal CV guarantees that the person has essential skills to deal with the current job market. These are the ten strengths you will find when you hire someone who has been a Scout. And it doesn’t have to do with any commercial traits associated or with the very ‘old fashioned’ and wrongly stereotyped image of young kids selling cakes.
They know how to work in teams – They might have 15 years of experience of working in teams, always applying respect for others as a transversal value. Setting up a tent or organizing a summer camp for 200 participants as a volunteer is part of their experience. The Scout way of learning is by nature cooperative and project based.
They are creative – They have spent many years finding innovative solutions in adverse situations. They have been asked to fix up roofs under unexpected heavy storms, come up with a ‘Vikings’ theme and a full programme to inspire 100 kids during 15 days; or to set up a fundraising campaign to cover the expenses of a refugee camp in Syria.
Will stand for his or her values and their word can be trusted – They are used to planning and carrying out activities using Scout values as the primary framework (something similar to the ‘code of ethics’ we refer to in the professional world). This fosters the need to believe in the aim of the projects they take part of, aligning these goals with his or her interest and passions. Truth, nobility, justice, solidarity and their word being trusted are non-negotiable values in their framework of action.
Know how to lead and how to be lead – They have been practicing since the age of six how to take decisions and work on more than one project at a time. In some of the cases, they are the leaders, in others, others lead them. When leading, they practice consensus, trusting the team, putting themselves in other people’s position and being consistent with their decisions. When led, they work with the team respectfully, promoting consensus and cohesion.
Has empathy for others – The same as an enterprise, there are all kinds of young people and adults in a Scout group. All of different ages, skills and interests. Empathy is a key factor to achieve coexistence and mutual support. A Scout has learnt that not everybody has to carry the same weight in their backpack, but it is better to distribute the weight based on each individuals capacities. They are aware that the best excursion is not the one that brings them furthest, but the one where everybody in the team can reach the goal together.
Values effort – From very early stages in a Scout’s life, activities are oriented for Scouts to be able to stand for themselves, to overcome their limitations even when all strength has gone. To smile when facing difficulties and to make all efforts to achieve what is set as a goal.
Knows how to set goals and how to evaluate them – Starting at six years of age, they practice how to set up personal and team goals, to monitor and assess them and to receive constructive feedback. Therefore, any Scout with manage smoothly when entering the labor force.
Is generous – To ‘give’ and to ‘share’ are some of the most often used verbs in the life of a Scout. The remaining water in the bottle doesn’t belong to the owner but to the one who is more in need. A volunteer educator is willing to invest up to 1000 hours in a Scout, dedicated to educating them to become better individuals.
Advocates against injustice – With the motto “to leave this world a little better than you found it”, Scouting’s pedagogy is based on encouraging young people to be able to understand their potential and apply it to improve their environment. Being brave to solve and face the challenges without ignoring any injustice, always taking action to change it in a positive way.
Is a resourceful person – They have extensive experience of turning meetings into a more dynamic space, coming up with activities to solve conflicts, to speak in public or to find out the cheapest service to rent a van. They are adventurous and dynamic, used to addressing problems of various sizes and shapes.
Aren’t these all the skills we are looking for in people to be incorporated in our work teams?
• If you have been a Scout and Scout educator, include it in your CV and talk about it during your job interview.
• If you are looking for talent, don’t miss the competitive advantages of being a Scout.
• If you are a parent aiming to educate your children with essential life skills: encourage your kids to join Scouting, even if this results in early wake-up calls during weekends.
Nearly all National Scout Associations throughout the world are celebrating Founder’s Day or World Thinking Day today in remembrance of Robert Baden-Powell, the founder of the Scout Movement, and his wife, Olave Baden-Powell, founder of Girl Guide movement. Coincidentally, the husband and wife team both share February 22 as their birthday.
Robert spend much of his life encouraging the growth of the movement and inspiring others to help train youths in responsible citizenship, character development and self reliance.
In honor of Founder’s Day, let’s take a look at how these famous former boy scouts are related to Robert Baden-Powell. And make sure to check how you’re related too!
Happy BP's day.
Happy Founder's day for all scouts.
Happy Thinking day for all guides and girl scouts.
His Life Lieutenant General Robert Stephenson Smyth Baden-Powell, 1st Baron Baden-Powell, (22 February 1857 – 8 January 1941) was a British Army officer, writer, author of Scouting for Boys which was an inspiration for the Scout Movement, founder and first Chief Scout of The Boy Scouts Association and founder of the Girl Guides.
He was born as Robert Stephenson Smyth Powell in London on 22 February 1857. BP was the youngest of 7 children. His father died when he was 3 years old and his mother subsequently changed the name of her children to Baden-Powell.
BP was awarded a scholarship to Charterhouse, a prestigious school. He first was acquainted with scouting skills through stalking and cooking games while avoiding teachers in the nearby woods. He also played the piano and violin, was an ambidextrous artist, and enjoyed acting. Holidays were spent on yachting or canoeing expeditions with his brothers.
In 1876, BP went to India with the rank of lieutenant. He enhanced his scouting skills in the early 1880s in Natal in South Africa, where his regiment had been posted. During his travels, he came across a large string of wooden beads, worn by the Zulu king Dinizulu, which was later incorporated into the Wood Badge training programme of Scouts.
BP returned to Africa in 1896 to aid the British South Africa Company colonials under siege in Bulawayo during the Second Matabele War. Many of his later Boy Scout ideas took hold during this war. It was during this campaign that he first wore his signature Stetson hat and scarf.
A few years later he wrote a small manual, Aids to Scouting, to help train recruits. Using this and other methods he was able to train them to think independently, use their initiative, and survive in the wilderness.
BP returned to South Africa prior to the Second Boer War and was engaged in further military actions against the Zulus. By this time, he had been promoted to be the youngest colonel in the British Army. He was trapped in the Siege of Mafeking, and surrounded by a Boer army, at times in excess of 8,000 men. Although wholly outnumbered, the garrison withstood the siege for 217 days. Much of this is attributable to cunning military deceptions instituted at BP’s behest as commander of the garrison.
During the siege, a cadet corps, consisting of boys below fighting age, was used to stand guard, carry messages, assist in hospitals and so on, freeing the men for military service. BP was sufficiently impressed with both their courage and the equanimity with which they performed their tasks to use them later as an object lesson in the first chapter of Scouting for Boys. The siege was lifted in the Relief of Mafeking on 16 May 1900. Promoted to major general, BP became a national hero.
On his return from Africa in 1903, BP found that his military training manual, Aids to Scouting, had become a best-seller, and was being used by teachers and youth organisations. BP decided to re-write Aids to Scouting to suit a youth readership. In August 1907 he held a camp on Brownsea Island to test his ideas. The first book on the Scout Movement, BP’s Scouting for Boys was published in six instalments in 1908, and has sold approximately 150 million copies as the fourth best selling book of the 20th century.
Boys and girls spontaneously formed Scout troops and the Scouting Movement started inadvertently, first in the UK and soon internationally.
In January 1912, BP met Olave Soames. She was 23, while he was 55 and they shared the same birthday, 22 February. They became engaged in September of the same year, causing a media sensation due to BP’s fame. They married in secret on 31 October 1912. The Baden-Powells had three children, one son and two daughters.
In 1920, the 1st World Scout Jamboree took place and BP was acclaimed Chief Scout of the World. Baden-Powell was created a Baron in 1929 and is often referred to as Baden-Powell of Gilwell. By 1922 there were more than a million Scouts in 32 countries; by 1939 the number of Scouts was in excess of 3.3 million.
At the 5th World Scout Jamboree in 1937, BP retired from public Scouting life.
22 February, the joint birthday of Robert and Olave Baden-Powell, continues to be marked as Founder’s Day by Scouts.
In 1939, BP moved to a cottage he had commissioned in Nyeri, Kenya, near Mount Kenya. He died on 8 January 1941 and was buried in Nyeri, Kenya.
His gravestone bears a circle with a dot in the center which is the trail sign for “I have gone home”. Kenya has declared BP’s grave a national monument.
Baden Powell's Last Message
BP prepared a farewell message to his Scouts for publication after his death. His advice of “try and leave this world a little better than you found it” is as relevant -if not more- today and continues to inspire young people all over the world.
He said:
Dear Scouts, If you have ever seen the play Peter Pan you will remember how the pirate chief was always making his dying speech, because he was afraid that possibly, when the time came for him to die, he might not have time to get it off his chest. It is much the same with me; and so, although I am not at this moment dying, I shall be doing so one of these days, and I want to send you a parting word of goodbye. Remember it is the last you will ever hear from me, so think it over. I have had a most happy life, and I want each of you to have a happy life too. I believe that God put us in this jolly world to be happy and enjoy life. Happiness doesn't come from being rich, nor merely from being successful in career, nor by self-indulgence. One step towards happiness is to make yourself healthy and strong while you are a boy, so that you can be useful, and so can enjoy life when you are a man. Nature study will show you how of beautiful and wonderful things God has made the world for you to enjoy. Be contented with what you have got, and make the best of it; look on the bright side of things instead of the gloomy one. But the real way to get happiness is by giving out happiness to other people. Try and leave this world a little better than you found it, and when your turn comes to die you can die happy in feeling that at any rate you have not waste your time but have done your best. "Be Prepared" in this way, to live happy and to die happy; stick to your Scout Promise always- even after you have ceased to be a boy- and God help you do it.
At least once a year, something terrible happens when you wake up in the morning of your ex's birthdays. When it is supposed to feel like it's going to be a good day, but then you see it as crisis and you need a plan for how to move forward.
Wll here is that plan: Do not dare send a "happy birthday" text!!
If you think sending a "happy birthday" text to someone you once dated/boned/were in love with seems perfectly normal, you are wildly out of sense. Such message won't prove that you are "nice" but are actually it's a terrible proof of your "kindness". These texts are not at all about wishing happiness to someone as they're about playing with that muddy emotions. The true secret behind every happy birthday text from an ex is: Look at me, I'm so careless that I can wish you a "happy" day and it's totally fine!
There's no such kind "happy birthday" text when ex is involved. Mostly because an ex can never just say "happy birthday" and leave it at that. A birthday text from an ex always comes with a side of something horrible like: "...and I hope you're doing well,..." or, "I know it's been a while since we talked but..."; what kind of reply are you expecting? a simple "Thanks"? or another horrible reply "Thanks...I am fine... keep in touch...".
I can understand the motive behind saying happy birthday to an ex, especially for the serious one who you experienced at least one birthday with. Is it a moral thought? If you don't say happy birthday, will they think you're being salty and are secretly wishing they have an unhappy birthday? But then again, if you do say happy birthday, they might not respond, or worse, they might respond with that cold "Thanks".
This would all be much easier if there was just an established rule for this situation. And that rule should be: Just don't send the damn text.
Throw your phone for 24 hours if you must. Because the actual best birthday present you can give to any ex is to leave them the hell alone. No texts, no e-cards, no flower arrangements, no nothing. Just let them enjoy their special day the way they want to - completely without you. It is a one day a year that should not be ruined by the blast from the past.
There are very few exceptions to this rule. If you and your ex are mature enough and who are honestly still friends, sure! send the text. And by "friends," I mean this ex must be someone you interact with at least few times a month with zero drama. Like, if they texted you out of nothing for an advise. But if that isn't the situation between you and your ex, or if you are unsure, Don't send it! Don't.
You know that: "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all?" don't you?
If you can't say, "Happy birthday," to an ex without actually meaning: "Happy birthday, you f** b** I hope your cake tastes like a s**," then don't say anything at all.
If you're very lucky, your ex will return the same favor to you.
Keep them alone and continue your life like any other normal person.
Love your job but don’t love your company, because you may not know when your company stops loving you. - Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam
ALWAYS LEAVE OFFICE ON TIME
Work is a never-ending process. It can never be completed.
Interest of a client is important, so is your family.
If you fall in your life, neither your boss nor client will offer you a helping hand; your family and friends will.
Life is not only about work, office and client. There is more to life.
You need time to socialize, entertain, relax and exercise. Don’t let life be meaningless.
A person who stays late at the office is not a hardworking person. Instead he/she is a fool who does not know how to manage work within the stipulated time. He/She is inefficient and incompetent in his work.
You did not study hard and struggle in life to become a machine.
If your boss forces you to work late, he/she may be ineffective and have a meaningless life too; so forward this to him/her.
Leaving Office on Time
Efficient
Good Social Life
Quality Family Life
Leaving Office Late
Inefficient & Incompetent
No Social Life
Less Family Life
